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XIPs in their personal sphere
Because intelligence is, to a large degree, hereditary, parents, children, brothers, sisters, and grandparents are possibly just as intelligent as the XIP who is actively preoccupied with the topic. And yet acknowledgement is not always so obvious, because:
- Family tradition or gender prescribes a certain role
- Everyone makes their own decisions concerning visibility
- The intelligence at school and in working life does not need to be visible.
Children regularly cause parents to bring up the subject of Xi: through ‘deviant behaviour’ at school and/or the reaction of the school to this behaviour, past memories are revived.
A surprising number of parents, and especially mothers, put in tremendous efforts to assist their children’s development, without acknowledging their own possible extra intelligence. If they are Xi and acknowledge it, they will be in a better position to understand their child, and will also be a more consistent role model for them in the way they deal with their Xi and how they find their expression in the world.
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 Birds of a feather...
Although the two partners in a relationship can be widely different in the mode of their intelligence, it is very plausible that the 'true love' of an XIP is also an XIP.
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Their mutual
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attraction is heightened by their shared need for intensity and complexity and by their shared drive. But often the diversity of ways in which each of them may excel can complicate a correct estimation of the other's extra intelligence.
Certainly in the female line of parents, traditional role patterns often appear to have been effective in blocking the development of exceptional intelligence. Solidarity with one’s own dynastic line can then be a formidable obstacle in expressing one’s intelligence fully in the present-day world.
Then there are of course the numerous Xi fathers who were not cut out for a school career. As visual thinkers or manual workers, they went into vocational training or straight into a trade. That was where they reached the top of their profession, sometimes accompanied by the appropriate social success, or maybe they came unstuck in one-dimensional organisations run by one-dimensional managers.
If you discover how much your own family is a treasure chest of exceptional qualities, this helps you to let your intelligences loose on the world.
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